1. Don’t be too mushy

You should always use romantic gestures as a supplement to the relationship.  You also shouldn’t say many mushy things too often or they lose their power.

Show you have a heart — but make it a rare occurance.  Keep your inner little girl in check. Women want you to act like a man, even if they sometimes say otherwise.   Keep her interested in you by using things like flowers and expensive dates very sparingly.  It will help seperate you from the competition.

2. Have an enriched life

Make sure you find ways to stay busy and cultivate your own interests. Do things
with your friends without your girlfriend / girl your dating.  It’s a big mistake to make the girl you’re seeing the only person in your world and neglect your friends.

If you stick with your current hobbies after getting a girlfriend and continue your personal development it will help keep her more interested in you and you will become more attractive.

It’s a great way to spend some time apart as well.  It’s key that you’re not together 24/7 or you will get sick of each other pretty quickly.  You can’t miss what is always there.

3. Always end interactions first

Always end conversations “too soon” and on a positive tone.  This will leave her thinking about you long after the conversation has ended because of how much fun she had with you.  If you let a conversation drag on too long in early stages it can kill attraction.

Its ok to let a conversation end when its going well.  A lot of guys will try to keep a conversation rolling if it’s going well.  End the conversation and either get a number, create the next date, or simply end it pleasantly.

For example, if you’re talking to a woman you just met at a bookstore for about five minutes while having an awesome conversation, that is when you should end it.

Say, “Hey, It was great meeting you but I have to get going. What’s your number?” Same principles apply for phone conversations.

Avoid becoming overly infatuated, you need to mke sure you are still percieved as a challenge. Don’t become a pussy.

It’s a good practice to often conciously listen to the words you’re saying and evaluate whether or not they sound like pussy-ish. Once you’ve shown a woman that you’re a wimp, it’s hard to get yourself back into the “real man” category.

-Gary

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As you’re waiting in line at the local Starbucks, a super hot woman woman walks in. The first thing you do not want to do is look her up and down like wolf who just found fresh meat. Get your milk and artificial sweetener and plan your attack.

There are a few nice things about coffee shops.

• No shortage of women going in and out
• If it’s a local artsy type of place, you will probably be pre-filtering party girls if that’s not what you’re looking for
• You already have something in common – good coffee

keep in mind your main objective with approaching is always getting either a phone number or email. The “close” is getting the number or email address, don’t worry about getting any further at this point when you’re doing approaches.

It can be a bit intimidating to approach a woman with a crowd of people around. But, who says you have to ask for her number right there, with your caffeinated spectators? You don’t, wait until your outside to ask for her number, but start flirting inside.  Make asking her for her number almost as an after thought, like “hm, maybe I’ll see what she’s up too tonight.” Make sure you don’t come from a place of neediness.

To approach her without it being awkward, she has to be in some proximity to you. Listen to what she orders. Say “Hmm that sounds good! I might try that… If it sucks, you better give me a refund” then wink and smile.

If she’s really lean, and she orders a frou-frou drink without whip cream and with skim milk,  you could bust out the Napolean Dynamite line “I see you’re drinking 1%. Is that ’cause you think you’re fat? ‘Cause you’re not. You could be drinking whole if you wanted to.”

Or, while “deciding what you want” let her get in front of you, then say a couple minutes later “ok, well I know what I want now, I’ll have blah blah …oh yeah and tell him no sugar, since you cut me..you owe me BIG TIME”

Don’t frequent the same coffee shop too often to pick up women or you’ll become that guy that the store employees and legit customers can’t stand but can’t find a way to get rid of.

Keep it fun and always think of approaching women as just having fun and trying to have a good time with people around you, not like you are trying to get something out of her.

Implement and practice!

-Gary

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When most guys think about approaching a woman they tend to make nervous movements, speak rapidly, freeze up, or explode into a pile of nerves leading to rejection.  Usually, the hotter the girl the higher the nervous factor. There are a few simple and easy ways to dismantle your approach anxiety.

A good way to dismantle this type of thinking is to remember that on the inside whether she’s hot, average, or ugly, fat, skinny, etc we’re all the same anatomically (mostly). Another way to shed some anxiety is to immediately look for her flaws to help you realize she isn’t perfect either. See my previous entry Chop Down The Pedestal for more on this subject.

This will help you deal with being rejected as not every woman you talk too is going to like you, no matter what you do. It will help reduce how much you feel like you lost or failed. Remember, she isn’t any more valuable than YOU are, so if she gave you the cold shoulder, it’s her loss.

You have to come from a place of feeling like you are the most important person in your world. Anyone else who is allowed into your world should feel privileged to know you. Also, the more you do it, the less you will feel like you have lost over time.  Turn approaching women into a game, or think of it a social experiment until you get good at it, detach yourself from any negative emotions you may have experienced before from rejection.

Action Plan: Go to a public place like a mall and approach 10 women. We’re not trying to get phone numbers, just getting comfortable speaking to random women and coming up to them cold. This is what you do make eye contact and say “hey, you are absolutely gorgeous and I had to stop you to tell you…<she replies> I have to get going, unfortunately tight on time” wave and leave. Very simple, just give a compliment and have some fun with it. Do it and let me know how it goes.

-Gary

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Most people forget that there are places other than bars and clubs to meet women. Chances are, you will find a higher quality woman at one of the places described below than the typical bar scene anyway.  Check these places out for some great locations to easily meet and start conversations with women.

1. Ballroom Dance Lessons / Class

Guys hate it, women love it, which is why YOU should be there! Less guys, more women = less competition. I’m talking a 3:1 ratio here, at worst.  Another plus, you will get to dance with body contact with a lot of different hot women, which is always fun.  Even if you find you don’t meet anyone you like, you will have a new skill to add to your arsenal that most guys don’t have. If you can teach a woman what you’ve learned in dance class — they will be impressed! It’s a great way to immediatley start touching as well.

Icebreaker: “I know we need to dance close, but please don’t get too excited now…”

2. Home Depot / Lowes / Craft stores

If you’re looking for a woman who is self-reliant and indepdendent look no further than your local DYI store.

Icebreaker: “Hey check out this caulking gun..rather than that one, it works a lot better”

3. Men and Women’s Shoe Store

Again, another spot where typically there will be more women than men.  It’s critical that is BOTH a men AND woman’s shoe store or you may look kinda gay.

Icebreaker: “Hey, you look like you may know a little bit about fashion..which pair do you like better, these or these?”

4. Book Stores

Preferably one with a cafe inside -  Prove you’re more than just another pretty face, and ask a woman who is in your favorite sections if she’s read one of your favorite reads.

Icebreaker: “Hey, looking for a good <subject name> book? check this out…it’s kick ass. I’m going to grab a coffee..would you like to join me?”

5. Yoga Class

Increase your flexibility, relax, and watch girls in tight pants contort their bodies in enjoyable ways. Once the women in the class realize you’re straight and are masculine and confident enough to step foot into that type of class the game is already half over.

Icebreaker: <say to woman you are interested in> “Hey, No staring at my ass…I’ll be watching you!” with a wink.

-Gary

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