Ever been in a conversation with a woman that’s going nowhere? When you can almost feel the heavy silent awkwardness in the air?
This is a lot more common than you may think when two people don’t know each other well and lack conversation skill. Luckily, there are ways to get a great conversation going again.
Socially awkward and shy guys tend to dread these conversations. A conversation will run out of energy when you talk about things that are not important to either of you. Once you can zero in on a subject that you both find interesting or important you can talk about it tirelessly.
So, the key here is to find what her favorite subject is.
How do you do this?
Ask a lot of questions! Pay close attention to the answers.
Watch closely as she answers for signs of high interest in the topics that are being discussed such as increased vocal variety and expressions of excitement. Keep asking more questions to drill in further about the subject at hand.
Avoid asking closed questions – those that require a “yes” or “no” to fully answer. Open ended questions are always the best.
Closed question example: “Do you know what you want?”
Open question example: “How did you get into gymnastics?”
Open ended questions can’t be answered with a simple “yes” or “no.” The main idea of an open ended question is to illicit a thoughtful answer. It will give her a chance to talk about something that is meaningful to her.
Open ended questions will make your conversations run smooth and become much more enjoyable.
-Gary
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